I think its important to remember the kind of exposure actors and writers have to fan made things based on their work. A lot of the time when they are shown fan art/fictions they are being shown what is most likely to shock them and get a funny reaction. There’s this nasty trend of interviewers and show hosts finding the most sexual and/or weird out of context works possible to show in hopes of getting that reaction, that scandalized comment and a cheap laugh at the expense of the artist/fan, who was likely not asked permission or even warned. Sure, it gets a laugh out of some people, but it also puts the actor/writer in an awkward position and hurts the more devoted fans.
So knowing how often actors/writers are shown “the worst of the fandom” its really quite understandable that they have some pretty harmful misconceptions about it. If you were only ever shown one side of a story, complete with ominous background music and scary lighting, you’d be pretty ignorant of the true nature of it as well.
Maybe we should be more angry at the source of these negative misrepresentations than at the victims of this weird propaganda. It might be better to take steps to stop these misrepresentations and put out a more positive image of ourselves as fandoms. We are big communities, together we could do great things. We already sway votes on fan poles and create much needed awareness for important causes. It would be amazing if one day we were known more for the support we give many charities like Random Acts and the Wolf Pack Charity Project. We are better than some joke on a talk show. We are why these shows air in the first place and we are usually shown respect for that, and that’s why we need to say no more when it comes to being teased on tv and in interviews. We deserve better than what these hosts and interviewers are trying to turn us into. Nip it in the bud before our image is twisted further.